Saturday, November 6, 2010

Where to find a hot and willing friend?


I've heard a lot of talk of friends with benefits lately. As I'm in somewhat of a Carrie Bradshaw mood today, I'll blog about my take on the matter:



The obvious benefits are the "benefits" with no strings attached. You get together, do the deed, and that's it. Nothing extends beyond that and no feelings are hurt...


But, can two friends really have intimate relations without any residual emotional attachments? Perhaps two strangers could, but then they're hardly "friends" with benefits. In that case, maybe the relationship should be renamed as "acquaintances with benefits".


Next, is it safe? How can you guarantee that you won't contract an STD, etc? The obvious solution is to remain in a monogamous beneficial relationship, but what's to say your benefactor won't "cheat" on you? If he/she were to, what could you do about it? Stop sleeping with them? Obviously they can get it somewhere else. Break-up with them? You were never going out in the first place ergo the beauty of friends with benefits.

In addition, what if the girl gets pregnant? First of all, let's hope that she didn't cheat on the guy, or else there'll be a problem finding the baby daddy :O Supposing that she was just "friends" with one guy, what's to make him stay around? Actually, if you're a teen and pregnant, you're pretty much screwed anyhow.

For some people, the pros far outweigh the cons, so they go ahead and fool around anyways. In that case, the only question that remains is:
Where to find a hot and willing friend?


Food for thought:

What's your take on friends with benefits?
Would you ever try it out?
Do you think you could keep from developing emotional attachments?
Did I sound sufficiently Bradshaw-esque?

11 comments:

  1. I'm a good indian boy, i do not engage in such frivolous activities O=]

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  2. ^ That's not what you said last night ;)

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  3. ^like.

    I think the general issue with friends with benefits is that somebody always wants more, despite the fact that friends w/ benefits is inherently set up to avoid commitment. Which means it either collapses or they end up in a relationship anyhow.

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  4. idk. i mean i'm pretty sure amalan would listen to my problems.

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  5. ray would answer with big words

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  6. yay carrie bradshaw. anna, you should do more carrie-bradshaw-esque things because she's awesome and fabulous. and this reminds me of:

    http://www.smbc-comics.com/index.php?db=comics&id=2049#comic

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  7. I really don't see an issue with being friends with benefits. If both people have a mutual understanding from the very beginning, both clearly stating that they only want sex, then there's no problem. Of course, they should be sensible enough to keep it monogamous, but still sex-only, thus eliminating the risk of contracting STDs. As for the girl getting pregnant, that can happen in any relationship, regardless of the whole strings-attached thing.

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  8. my point is: what's to keep them from "cheating" on your monogamous friendship

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  9. What's their motivation to cheat anyways; they're already getting the sex...

    I mean, unless someone actually want a relationship.

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  10. woah, friends with benefits (according to this, pretty much a stranger you use to have sex with, with his/her permission) actually exist?!??

    people do this stuff?!?!?!?!

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